We become frantic as we realize that not only is nothing happening in our love life, but we are at a loss as to how to make it happen, which of course leads to more panic, creating a loop of frustration, at best, or worse, hopelessness. When people put aside their love life to focus on these other areas, years pass, and one day the lack of urgency turns into panic. That’s not to say that these are not all highly fulfilling aspects of your life in their own right, but I want to help you understand how within these essential parts of your life are opportunities to find the man of your dreams. You assume that “when the time is right” the right guy will come along, and in the meantime you focus on your work, your ambitions, your family, your friends, your hobbies. The fate-will-bring-me-love approach lacks urgency, which leads to lack of action. We’ve all been led to believe that someday it will just “happen,” that one day fate will drop the person of our dreams right next to us while we’re standing at a stoplight. Blame it on the fairy tales we’re read as kids, blame it on Hollywood, but the fact remains that we’ve come to believe that true love is the product of fate. Both sexes are guilty of leaving their love lives to chance. If I asked the same question of a male reader, the number would be just as small. What makes them even longer is that these interactions are probably happening by chance, and certainly not because they are men you have selected yourself. Right if you are meeting only one new man in an average week? I’m not a mathematician, but the odds are pretty long. If your answer is none, or even one, how long do you think it’s going to take you to meet the guy? I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt: let’s say you meet one new man every week.
But it has to be a conversation, not just collecting your mail from the postman (unless of course he’s new and you turn him into a social connection).
And when I say “meet,” I refer to a genuine social interaction, where you engage with a man, eye contact and all, for anywhere from five minutes of chatting to a full two-hour conversation.
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